TankGrrl - Annotations On Life

June 04, 2004   (You probably expected to be here.)
  Where is the love?  

I just sent this to the SMH and The Age. I just had to speak up.
Play School is being drug through the mud for daring to show a happy family that happens to have two mommies. The kids, of course, didn't think anything of it until the grownups started screaming.

Related links:
http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2004/06/03/1086203545100.html
http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2004/06/03/1086203565206.html

I recently saw an Internet blog (it's a sort of diary kept online) sporting an icon of Pfc. Lynndie England, star of the Iraqi sex scandal. Superimposed on the image was the word "dyke".

Sorry. She's not ours. It takes more than short hair to make one a lesbian. In fact, Pfc. England is pregnant and engaged to Charles Graner, the other star of the scandal.

Catholic priests and bishops are again in the news over pedophilia charges and the church is again admitting to mishandling it.

Sorry. Also not ours. Molesting kids makes them pedophiles, not homosexuals. I suppose it needs stating once again; Pedophiles are predominantly heterosexuals.

Play School recently showed two loving mothers having a day out with their daughter and their daughter's friend. They looked very happy.
Yep. Those are ours. Thanks.

The latter also seems to be big news as anti-gay "pro-family" groups and religious fundamentalists have raised a stink about it. They say it's... something. I don't know exactly. It's forcing them to protest that they might have to discuss gay families with their kids, and purportedly it's also helping make their kids gay. Somehow. I guess they're hoping that their kids will just ignore their classmates who come from gay families and it will never have to be discussed. It appears to make them very uncomfortable and agitated.

The kids, of course, have no idea what's got the grownups so worked up. I watched some of them view the program and go right on with their normal lives. Not even blink. And not a one of them stood up, pointed at the screen and said, "What do those women think they're doing? Both loving that child... I bet it involves sex! Mommy? Daddy? You've got some explaining to do!"

Mommy and daddy do have some explaining to do, in my book. They need to explain why they insist on making this a sexual issue. And why this supposedly sexual issue is so much more heinous than those infecting the very religion that's being held up as the moral accuser of gay families.
Why is it that a pedophile priest can obtain absolution, succor, forgiveness, from the church, but a public office holder who supports a woman's choice cannot take communion? An officer of the church can sexually molest a child and be offered redemption, no matter how many offenses, but a loving same-sex family can't be a part of that church unless they "go straight"?

Explaining the two mommys seems pretty easy to me, in comparison.

As with most similar issue, I believe that ignorance and fear is at the heart of the matter. How little you, the straight and narrow, know about us. And how very much we know about them. You see, we grew up amongst them. We went to church. We went to school. We've studied the bible, we've lived with and around opposite-sex couples. Chances are our parents were. And chances are our kids will be too. They merely dismissed us and gave us no more thought than was necessary to keep us down, but not out. So what can they possibly know of our families? Of our love for our children and our spouse? The evidence implies not very much at all.

So let me address "them". Let's hear the part of the plan that comes after the two mommies are shunned from TV.

Go ahead and tell that child you want to replace one of her mommies. That you want to take her away in favour of someone you deem more fit. Any man will do, the rhetoric seems to say, but preferably the man who fertilised the egg that became that child. A man who may have helped conceive her, but is not her parent. Not like the mommy you'd like to sweep under the rug. Gay families are a fact, and hiding them from Play School's cameras won't make them go away.

So what will you tell her when she asks why you hate her? Why you hate her mommy and want her to go away? Why you need to call her mommy names but not other kids' mommies. Will you tell her it's about love? Family? Even as you strip the love and family from her. Will you try to tell her, in some neurotic way that I cannot comprehend, that it's about sex? Because it's nothing to do with sex for her or her mommies. In fact, it's only to do with sex when you make it out to be so. But will you be around to explain that now that you've made it an issue? No. because that's what you fear the most -- explaining what you don't understand and seem to fear. You say Play School is bad because then you have to explain this supposed "sex" topic to your kids. Children, especially Play School aged children know nothing of sex. But it isn't about sex and it never was. It's about love. Plain and simple. And surely you can explain love. Jesus talked about it above all things.

So. Where is the love? Where is the compassion of Christ? Is it being saved up just for people who aren't different, who don't make you uncomfortable? It's a bit like the "emperor has no clothes" story in reverse, and people on high horses keep pointing at the king's genitals, despite their being covered. Well, now I'm pointing the finger back.

And I'm asking, where is the love?

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